I read something a few months ago about how fate doesn’t exist and how “it wasn’t meant to be” is humanity’s excuse for failed relationships; how fate or destiny becomes people’s excuse for not taking action or not taking responsibility; how it just becomes too easy to say everything is out of our control and what we do doesn’t matter.
The idea that “what is meant to be will always find a way to be” acts as some sort of safety net. Like we can all just sit back and somehow the life we are meant to have will just fall at our feet. Prince Charming will walk right out of the crowd, place a big fat diamond on your finger and you’ll ride off into the sunset without ever having to take a risk or make an effort. Every relationship that doesn’t work “wasn’t meant to be” so then you never really have to think about or evaluate the choices each of you made; or accept that he was just an asshole or that he simply found someone he likes better than you. Leaving things to fate is actually this disturbing state of inaction where we are just too afraid to do whatever it takes to chase down the life we want. If everyone believed in fate and subscribed to this faith in passivity, nothing would EVER happen.
But I will say part of me does believe in fate, some higher power trying to guide the world in love. I believe in true love. But I think sometimes it does require risks and people have to make choices. Maybe fate is really just two people finding each other and making whatever choices it takes for them to end up together……….
